In our life, there will always be villains. As much as we would want to live a life free from all forms of struggle and people who are out to hurt us, it just doesn't happen that way. I used to think that if I do not hurt anyone, no one will hurt me. Sadly, this is not the case.
A quote I saw before explained it to me perfectly. Expecting people to treat
you well simply because you do is like expecting a bull to not charge at you
simply because you are a vegetarian. It doesn't make sense.
In my life, I have had so many villains that at one point, I stopped and
simply asked God, "why me? What did I do to deserve this kind of treatment
from someone? Why was I betrayed? Why did he not love me back? Why did he not
love me enough? Why did he not fight for me? Why is my Dad not proud of me? Why
did he cheat on me? Why do they hate me?" Every time I hurt from a villain
in my life, I ask these questions; over and over again.
One day, I just decided to stop asking and just get on with life. I decided
that it didn't matter anymore. Also, I realized that there are just bad people
and then there are people placed in your life who challenge you and hurt you to
make you a better person. Yes, I know they didn't tell themselves, "oh I'm
gonna hurt her to make her better" but it’s more of they were placed in
your life to make you a stronger and better person.
It's not easy to accept but it’s something we all need to accept. It’s
a bitter pill of life that you just gotta swallow and deal with.
Raising my son, this is something that I need to teach him. It will be a
painful lesson but I need to let him know that there will always be someone who
will contest you, contest your thoughts, make you feel bad about yourself, and
just be plain mean to you. How you react, how you fight back or step down is
what will ultimately show people who you are. I need to teach him that these
people do not matter enough that you should be severely affected but instead,
you need to utilize whatever it is they throw out at you and turn it around to
make you a better person. Easier said than done I know.
I hope that my son handles these kinds of things better than I did. I went
through just not saying anything to lashing out to destroying my villains until
I realized, ignoring them is actually the best way to handle them. You see,
these people will never understand you nor give you a chance to prove yourself
because they already have an opinion about you.
As with anything, be it a tragedy or a villain that just won’t go away, I
simply tell myself now, “This, too, shall pass.”