A coworker of mine made me listen to the song Butterfly Kisses by Bob Carlisle and I ended up almost in tears. I read the lyrics and it was something that I could not relate to for my father was someone that they would call an absentee Dad.
He wasn't there for my performances, contests, awardings, or prom. He was rarely there for birthdays and holidays. He wasn't an OFW but he was very dedicated to his work and would live in the factory to run the business.
As a child, I hated him for it. As an adult, I tried hard to understand him but still failed. As a Mother who had to struggle to get my child to school, I finally understood him.
My Dad may not have been the typical father who'd shower me with hugs and kisses. My Dad may not have been there to nurse my broken heart. My Dad may not have been there a lot of the time but he made sure that I received the best education money could buy and he made sure that I never had to deal with any school financial problems. He wasn't there to hold us in his hands but he ensured that we can maximize out full potential in school by sending us to the best high school and best college money can buy.
With this, I realized that though he may not have been the father I wished him to be, he was the best father that he knew how to be and for that, I have finally learned to love and accept him, flaws and all.
He may not have given me butterfly kisses but he ensured that what he gave me would last longer than butterfly kisses. Thanks Daddy. I love you.
You still owe me a dance on my wedding though. =p
I love this post! I am glad you had a change of heart and understood where he is coming from. It is really hard to judge one unless you are in their situation.ReplyDelete
Some dads are just afraid to show their "affectionate" side, because some think that they get less masculine with it.ReplyDelete
However, I think that that is wrong.
People need to be more and more affectionate, as children tend to hate people who don't support then, right?
I'm a daddy's girl! He wasn't fond of kissing and hugging his daughters, but he loves educating us through books and stories. I acquired the travel bug from him :)ReplyDelete
It's a song I've heard a long time ago. I'm glad you love your father. :)ReplyDelete
Cheers to your Dad but I'm sure deeply he's so proud of you. Time gives us an appreciation of what we used to neglect before.ReplyDelete
Moral lesson: Despite everything, love your parents. :)ReplyDelete
I'm in the same position as where your dad was. It's not that I'm super dedicated to my work. It's just that I need to work extra hard to provide well for my kids. I hardly have time for them and because of the lack of time, my toddler can't even speak properly yet. But if I stop working this hard they'll suffer too. Being a parent sure is tough.ReplyDelete
it would take courage to admit you finally understood - and thanks to your won parenthood. :)ReplyDelete
the song is always heartwarming and it can still tear me up every now and then. this is such a sweet tribute to your dad :)ReplyDelete
What a lovely post.ReplyDelete
A father should always be a good provider and you are too lucky to have a good one :)ReplyDelete
your such sweet daughter!! my dad busy working a well but as a religious person he always gives us hugs and kisses whenever! xxReplyDelete
You have to be one in order to understand one. Parang ganun yung kasabihan... My father is also not that affectionate and I also hated him when I was a kid...ReplyDelete
Good thing you have open your heart and mine. You know what fathers hate most is that to see their children without food. I think that time when hes not around hes busy looking food for the table :)ReplyDelete
teary eyed ako dito. One of the best post. The fathers love and sacrifices is really unconditional. Family first before anything else kahit na palagi sialng absent sa mga importanteng bagay sa life natin that doesn't na nakalimot sila. trabaho lang sila ng trabaho for our future. I miss my papa now.ReplyDelete