This is something that I often hear from my single lady friends. They would casually throw out that they just want to have a baby and that they don't need a father because they are sure they are quite capable of raising the kid on their own.
To this I say, and pardon me, "Screw you!"
You don't know shit about having a baby. If you think that having enough money and maternal instinct is enough, I tell you IT IS NOT! Any parent would agree with me on this.
It takes a village to raise a child. This quote exists for a reason. You, by your lonesome self, would never be enough. It would make do but nothing can beat having both parents with you. If the choice was taken away, then of course you need to do everything you can to fill two shoes. I would applaud you if this were the case but to make that choice consciously if just plain wrong. This, I would gladly hit you over and over again.
Just in case, here are a few things that you may not be aware of when you are a single Mom. I am a single Mom and I can tell you that this is what I regularly encounter.
1. Explaining where the Dad is. You may think that you are not obliged to explain to anyone why your kid does not have a father but guess what, you are! You owe it to your kid and eventually, you will need to explain to the teachers, the school, and the other parents.
2. Arts. Yes, art projects can become a pain. My son was recently asked to create a family tree and I had to explain why the father side did not have any "fruits" at all. It was painful, it was stressful, and it left a hollow feeling. It's also hard to explain why the family tree of his classmates had a complete set while his was lacking. Luckily for me, B did not ask this because he's mature for his age. Still, I know time will come he will ask. I dread that day.
3. The stares. Yes dear, the stares still exist. In this day and age where you'd expect people to be more accepting and open to single parents, the stare still exist. You know that stare. You've probably given it yourself when you were younger. The condescending or pitiful stare that says "what an unfortunate incident."
These are just a few things that I am able to think of right now. I just get so insulted and riled up when I hear single women say that they want to be single mom's because they "can." It is an insult to all single mothers who are single mom's not by choice but because fate intervened and made it so.
I am a single Mom and I am proud of it. However, I would still tell people that being a whole family is still the best way to go ... granted of course that the two parents are indeed a true unit who love and respect each other.
You say, "I just want a baby." In time, your kid would say, "but Mom, I just want a Daddy."