I used to be a member of the FOBA community. I used to have Fear Of Being Alone. This was the reason why I was always in a relationship or constantly surrounded by friends. I couldn't eat out by myself, have coffee by myself, or even watch a movie by myself.
2 years ago, I learned to be FAB instead of FOBA. I learned that I can do things on my own and be happy. It wasn't easy and it was a journey that took months but once I took that first step,there was no turning back.
I started with one hour coffee sessions by myself. Initially, I would have books, cameras, iPods, and notebooks to serve as my companion. Eventually, I just started enjoying my book or my music and havin' fun by myself.
This was followed with quick lunch dates on my own. I realized that if I wanted to try a new place, I don't need to wait for friends to try it with me or a guy to ask me out. I can just go out on my own and eat. I don't need to wait for someone. I had no more reason to miss out on a dining experience.
Finally, I watched movies and play by myself. I found myself enjoying it because there was no one to interrupt and I did not have to explain anything to anyone. Sure, there were moments I missed it but overall, it was just fun.
Now, I have someone very special to go with me to these things but I know that if he won't be free or he's not interested in what I want to see, I can still be comfortable in my own skin and with me, myself, and I for a companion.
After all, I do not fear being alone anymore for I am now truly a FABULOUS woman.
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Hi! Let's all try to add more positivity in this world and adhere to the saying, "if you don't have anything nice to say, keep silent."
Showering you with unicorn poop so you'd always stay magical! Heart heart!