Since there seems to be a whole lot of talk going on about entitlement and what not, I've decided to share the little knowledge that I have on this topic. After all, I've been covering events for about 6 years now so I have had more than my fair share of crazy stories.
I've seen some of the worst and I kid you not, some of the things I have seen demanded by bloggers and instagrammers are just crazy. It makes me want to salute PR people who seem to always keep their cool during these times.
1. Learn to RSVP
When people invite you, you need to respond regardless if you are going or not. If you are going, make sure that you are aware of the time, date, ATTIRE, and location of the place. Most important, be sure to RSVP.
If you aren't going, tell the person why (if possible), apologize, and say thank you.
2. No +1
If the invitation is addressed just to you, it means it is ONLY YOU that has been invited.
So when is it okay to have a plus one?
In my opinion, if you have already formed a relationship with the person who invited you, you MAY ASK but not impose. If you are just a first time invitee, I would STRONGLY DISCOURAGE you to ask for a plus one. It is just not in good taste.
If you asked to bring a plus one and you were declined, RESPECT IT. Simply because you formed a relationship does not mean you are allowed to disrespect it and say "e friends naman kami e, okay lang yan" or be a total shithead and whine about it to others.
Now if the invite states to bring your family, it is still right to advise the person how many you are so that they can prepare and make sure that everyone can be accommodated. Family means immediate family and not extended family.
DO NOT BRING YOUR RELATIVES.
3. Say YES only when you SHOULD
A lot of instances, people just say yes for the heck of it. YOU SHOULDN'T.
If you are a vegetarian, don't say yes to a food review of a steak place. If you are allergic to seafoods, don't say yes to a seafood review. If you believe in an ideology and the event that is being held goes against it, you can decline and tell the truth. It is not a bad thing.
Saying yes to everything is not a good thing because you will spread yourself thin.
4. Be on time.
If the invite says 3pm and you arrived at 3pm, you're late. If you arrive 15minutes early, then you're on time. If you're late, you could have the door shut on you.
If everyone actually practices this, the world will be a better place because people will know when to expect something and know that it will happen when it should.
Now I've been late a few times because traffic can be pretty erratic but as mentioned, it has been only a few times. Most of the time, I am early.
Fashionably late is just a term coined by those habitually late. You won't succeed in life if you are always late. Also, people will talk about you behind your back.
5. Be Gracious and Grateful
When you are at the event, be gracious. Do not demand. Do not impose. Talk to people. You were invited to the event so now is the time to mingle, get to know others, and be a lively guest. Lively, not someone who hogs all the attention. Be interested in other people's stories to become interesting to other people.
After the event, thank the host for inviting you and remembering you. It is the right thing to do.
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Amen to ALL OF THIS. Nothing annoys me more than being late. I actually broke up with a guy once because he was never on time, drove me INSANE.ReplyDelete
Yes to all of this!!!! I hate being late. I am fortunate enough to have kids that all love to be early as well. People that are chronically late drive me crazy.ReplyDelete
Yes to your other points as well. Most of the invitations we get are very clear as to what the expectation of the person inviting us is. We have no right to change that. We should graciously accept or decline the invite as it stands.
I can't imagine all of the crazy stories you can tell after working in the industry for that many years.
great post..... These things are really much important to keep in mind...thanks for sharing them...i actually needed it (world in eyes)ReplyDelete
Great tips for the times when we are going to visit someone. But we can apply these tips to our virtual visiting as well. Just be creative with it!ReplyDelete
These are some amazing and important tips to keep in mind when you are visiting someone. Thanks for sharing with usReplyDelete
I’ve been guilty of a few of these. All the best though, because each tip is good etiquette.ReplyDelete
Thanks a lot.ReplyDelete
I agree whether you are attending an event or not you must respond
This teaches a lot of etiquette. Thanks for this informative piece of article.ReplyDelete
Wonderful tips on how to response to n event and what should you act during one!ReplyDelete
Totally correct! I think out of the basic human courtesy, everyone should be doing these things naturally! I hate it when I get +1 on parties, without even informing me! Great post!ReplyDelete
Agreeing with all points here are there really nothing to contest -- these are all simply manners and decorum which shouldn't even have to be written down for people. I guess there will always be people that needs to be reminded and be made aware that events are a privilege and not a right. :)ReplyDelete
Thank you for writing about this. I guess, we need to be reminded about proper manners when attending events. We should be grateful in the first place to be singled for an event so it is just proper to be courteous and not too demanding to the host.ReplyDelete
I totally agree to all these and I actually do this when I receive invitations.ReplyDelete
Even though I know there would be hundreds of others signing up for the invite, I would RSVP in the email and ask if I could bring in somebody, especially if the event is late at night and is a theater production.
I stick to what I've agreed with the PR and update him kor her if plans change, if I won't be able to make it, or if there are problems like if I'm going to be late or not. This way slots could be opened up for the next in line, especially for exclusive events or limited seats.
Time is gold for me and I'd often arrive an hour earlier if I could to scope the event, interview people, and take pictures. I also leave early once my task is done if its okay. I value time because I value rest, too, so I really appreciate invites to have schedules and agenda down pat.
Have not attended an event yet so I don't have something to share about this. Thank you for the tips. I will keep this in mind.ReplyDelete