My Mom told me that when I am upset, panicking, freaking out, worried, scared, or about to make a huge decision, I need to PAUSE. I need to pause and then pray. When I first heard it, I was like, yeah yeah I know but I didn't really believe it.
Recently, I was in a fight with someone and I said really hurtful words. I know that it was wrong but at that time, I just said it. I didn't really stop to think if it was worth fighting about, if it was worth hurting the person. I just did it.
Now, I am worried that I may have lost that person. All because I was stupid enough to be spiteful and because I kept thinking that it was okay to hurt him. I am a lousy person.
And I remembered what my Mom said. PAUSE. I wish I had paused back then. I wish that I counted 1-10 before I said anything. I hope this can still be fixed. I really really do. =(
Good advice. My mom never gave me any advice.ReplyDelete
Even more important that to stop and pause is to know what to do when you didn't. We all have moments in our lives when we fail to stop and think before we act. It's life, it happens.ReplyDelete
The hard thing is to clean up the mess we made.
While we can ask forgiveness and explain how we said something that we don't mean it's still up to the other person to decide if they want to forgive or not, and we have to live with the decision they make.
I hope you manage to sort things out and that you are dealing with an understanding person that has the ability to forgive.
@ daddy: Maybe she had other ways of teaching you how to learn things?ReplyDelete
@ kadri: He is very forgiving and unnderstanding. I'm lucky.