I used to be the queen of worries. I used to freak out over small things. I used to let everything get to me.
I used to be unhappy and tired all the time.
One day, I got sick and tired of it all so I decided to find ways to improve how my life is. I decided to let go of things.
1. I've let go of fake friends and irrelevant opinions.
I used to hurt so much when a friend betrays me or I find out that I was just being used. I would cry and lament. I would wonder why they did that to me. I would wonder what I did wrong.
When someone says something bad about me, I would take it personally. I would cry. I would try to explain. I would get mad. I would be so affected that it would affect everything.
Now, I simply feel hurt for a moment and move on. I've realized that as long as I did not do anything to deserve the betrayal, it's their problem, not mine. I simply unfriend and block.
I no longer allow cretins and worthless people plus opinions affect me. I know who I am and I know my worth so opinions of people who don't even know me no longer matter.
2. I've let go of clutter.
Yes, clutter actually messes with your mind and mental health. The more things you have, the more messed up your mind becomes. You have to tend to so many things, keep track of so many things, and when you need to find something, you spend hours looking for it which leads to time wasted and a lot of frustration.
When you let go of things that weigh you down just because they were given by someone who matter but it doesn't really make you happy, when you keep something you hate just because it's expensive ... these things add to your burden. When something is broken, throw it away. When something hasn't been used for over a year, give it to someone who can use it.
I used to have 20 megaboxes that contain stuff that I didn't even need. I gave all of it away in a span of three years and now, I just have stuff that I actually want to keep in my home. I may have less stuff but everything that I have are stuff that I actually want to have in my life.
3. I've let go of the desire to be right.
I used to always want to be right. I was like a dog who couldn't let go of a bone. I would keep an argument on going until I get my opponent to admit that I am right.
I would choose to be right rather than keep a relationship or friendship.
Now, I just let people win arguments especially when it's a senseless one. I'd rather be happy than be right.
4. I've let go of the idea of perfection.
We all want that Pinterest life. We want the perfect kitchen, the perfect living room, and of course the perfect life. However, Pinterest is an ideal. It is not reality.
The house will never be always clean. There will be dirt. There will be clutter. There will be dirt.
People will disappoint you. People will hurt you. People will fail you.
Life will be unfair. Life will mess with you. Life will hit you so hard that you will get the wind knocked out of you.
Life is fair because it is unfair to everyone. Life is perfect because it gives you what you need though it doesn't give you what you want. Life is fair for the simple reason that you woke up and took a breath.
I've let go of perfection simply because it does not exist. When you accept this piece of truth, life becomes so much better.
5. I've let go of things that I cannot control.
When a situation arises, I stop and think to myself:
Can I control this? If yes, then I come up with a solution.
If no, I let things go. Since I can't do anything about it, there's really no point in dwelling or dabbling and putting myself through hoops and loops.
So there, that's my list of things that I no longer trouble myself with. I hope you can pick one or two things that will help you live a happier life.
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These are the same things I'm learning to let go. In particular, I've let go of the need to please everybody. I won't be some people's cup of teaand I've learned to accept that. Instead of worrying if they'd accept me, I put my effort into sharing and doing the things I love. THE clutter, well, I do my best.ReplyDelete
Hahahaha. Natawa ako sa THE clutter ... kaya mo yan!Delete