I spoke to someone who wouldn't be with the one they love because they were scared. He was scared. He loved her and they both knew that they loved each other, very much if I may say so. However, he was scared.
He was scared of her.
You see, she hurt him and he got to the point that he wasn't sure if it was something that would continue forever. Her mistake was hurting him. His mistake, was not giving her another chance ... his mistake was not giving them another chance ... his mistake was not giving himself the chance to be happy again. Deep inside, he knows that she is the one who can make him happy. Deep inside, he knows that she is the one who can complete him. She is his happiness.
I wanted to tell him, in life, everyone you love, they will hurt you. They will break you at one point especially if you really love them for to love someone is to give them the power to hurt you, to break you. I wanted to tell him, she's hurting too you know. She's hurting a lot. She's hurting more than you know. She lets you know a few of the hurt but not everything because she doesn't want to hurt you more than she has and she knows that if you knew how hurt she really is, you would hurt more.
I wanted to tell him, in life, everyone will hurt us. We just need to find out who is worth all the pain and who isn't. We just need to find out who amongst those who have hurt us is willing to heal that hurt, who is willing to pick up the broken pieces with us. You see, no one is perfect. Sometimes, those who hurt us most are the ones who love us most as well.
They make mistakes. They are human.
We makes mistakes. We are human.
If you can't stay away from that person after all the pain she has inflicted on you, if you still think of her, if you still look for her, if you still miss her, if you still care about her, if you still don't want tears falling down her face, if you don't want her to hurt more than she already has, if you still love being the reason for her smile ...
even when she has hurt you so much that you actually gave up and left her ...
then perhaps ... it is worth another try. Think about it.
Every relationship has its ups and downs. Sometimes the down lasts for a time but the good thing is that it never stays down. There were more good than bad. Think about it. Conquer that fear. Living in fear is not living at all. You should know that. You taught her that. And always remember ... life can only be colorful if you learn to dance in the rain. There can't be a rainbow without the rain. What matters is that someone wants to dance in the rain with you now. Would you really let her dance alone?
I guess in love, we become brittle because to let someone in, we have to put down our walls and defences and we become vulnerable, which is what makes love a risk but the upside of course, defeats the risk involved.ReplyDelete
However, we will only reap the rewards if we are ready to take the risk.Delete
Very nice post... Tagos sa puso. Goodluck!ReplyDelete
thank you :)Delete
I understand the hesitancy. The fear of being hurt again. And the ache of loving despite all these risks. It's a good reminder for us that this is also part of love. To love is to trust. Thanks for this thought provoking post!ReplyDelete
there can be no love if there is only fear ... if there is no trust ....Delete
Fear always gets in the way. It's inevitable that we hurt the ones we love. Sad but true. We should learn to let go and let love. In the midst of all the pain and unmet expectations, it still does conquer all.ReplyDelete
I don't know about this guy. It seems fear and being scared is trumping love. Sad and hurtful but I cannot force him to be brave and to have courage. He needs to find it on his own.Delete
yes we make mistakes and everybody deserves second or third chances.. what matters most is that we learn from these mistakes and correct ourselves to make everything (good or bad) worth it. If the relationship is worth fighting for, then fight for it :)ReplyDelete
I did. For now, I lost. Hopefully in the future, I'd still win but we'll have to wait and see.Delete