I was talking to a doctor earlier and he asked me this question. Would I blame him if he operated on a family member of mine and two days later, that family of mine died due to the operation? Would I blame him?
Yes I would. I would blame him simply because I need to blame someone, in the same way that we all feel the need to believe that there is a God who controls our life and makes decisions for us. God's will and all that. Do I really believe that he is to blame? No. But I need to put my anger towards someone and channel whatever wrath I have in me so that I can slowly let go.
He thanked me for lettiing him see it from a patient's POV. I do wonder though if most people will agree with me.