Thursday, April 5, 2007

what makes a marriage a partnership

This is one question in my mind right now. I know weddings may be grandiose or simple, lavish or solemn ... it really depends on what the bride and groom wants (weel, mostly the bride.) But a marriage, that takes two to tango, two to make it work. So what makes it work? What makes it a real marriage?

Is it a partnership if the woman feels that she's the one who's always giving way? Is it a partnership if the woman feels that not all her needs are being met nor addressed? Is it a partnership when there's 5% talk, say 25% sex, and mostly just being together (not necessarilybeing together being together but mostly just physically together?) Most of the time, I feel that I am his partner. But at times, he makes me feel like decor.

You get my point?

Hubby is a really wonderful dad. He makes time for the tornado and is a good provider. He makes it a point to have moments with me but there are times that I feel neglected. That I feel that he's not a hubby to me.

One of the things we always fight about is my desire to talk. He doesn't like talking. I love to talk. Hence, the blog. No offense meant but blogging is just not the same thing as talking. I love interacting and I love hearing about other people's lives and sharing mine.

He doesn't. I have to squeeze it out of him to tell me things about his childhood. Most of the time, I learn about things about him or his friends when his family has a get together or he's with people from his past. With him, it's more of a question and answer kind of thing.

I don't know. Maybe I'm just hurting coz I've asked him to meet my friend for the 6th time in 2 years and he still gives me the exact same reason. He doesn't want to go out of the house. Seriously.

He says he wants to meet my friends but he just doesn't want to go out of the house. To be fair to him, he really is a homebody but I don't know. It just doesn't feel right to me. Shouldn't he meet my friends? Shouldn't he exert effort to meet them?

Or am I being melodramatic here? I mean, he does make time to be with me from time to time. He's never cheated on me. He's always here in the house and doesn't go out with his friends to drink and be merry.

Shed some light into my crazed talk. Bang me against a wall if I deserve it. It's just that right now, I don't feel loved by him.

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