Thursday, August 2, 2007

should I stay or should I go?

How long does it take for someone to say, "I love you" and mean it? Does it take a moment, a wday, a week, a month, a year, or a lifetime? How do you know that it really is love? How do you know it's not just infatuation or deep desire? How do you know that when you promise to honor somone, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, for better or worse .... that they really mean it? That you really mean it?

I love her but I chose you and our family because I felt guilty and I know that it was wrong. I still love you too. I've just been complacent coz I knew that you would never leave me because you love me.

What does that mean? How can you fall in love with someone you met 2 weeks ago and had an affair with for a week? You had stolen moments. You had lil time. how can you know someone well enough to fall in love with them in such a short time? Why was it in two weeks you were able to give her the things I've been asking from you? Time, attention, effort, kisses, and hugs.

Why couldn't you do the same for me? You said I was a good partner, that I took care of you and everything else. You said I was too good that you felt too secured. Why did you have to hurt me this way? I feel so broken ... I feel so lost.Why?

Judy Thomas said...
{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}} My dear friend, I do understand what you are going through and I hurt for you. There are no easy answers to this kind of pain and betrayal. If you want to email or call me, I'm here for you. Praying God's strenghth for you as you face this and try to figure out what to do.I love you.
at 10:34 AM

Daddy Forever said...
I'm sorry Kay. I really am. I don't think you can fall in love with someone you just met. And I don't understand how he can cheat and still say he loved you. Be strong, Kay. I hope you find happiness and love again soon.

at 2:28 PM
May said...
Kay, {{{Hugsss}}} I texted you. Hope you got it.

at 2:55 PM
Vader's Mom said...
Prayers. Lots and lots of prayers.

at 7:01 AM
Nerina said...
oh girl, i dont know what to tell you except that im here for u and i love u loads!friendster me ur fone number so i can call you. love yahnerina
at 9:06 AM
Mec said...

i don't really have answers to your questions...all i know is that choosing to love someone is a choice you have to make everyday, otherwise, the love itself will weaken... the relationship itself may die...hopefully, there will be people to help you guys through this... marriages CAN survive infidelity if both of you really work on it... I can't really tell you to forgive him outright, and I can't tell you not to forgive him either... this is something that you and your partner will really have to decide upon and work on...I just hope, you both make the right decision... and you both end up happy pa din... in time :)
at 2:28 PM

wayabetty said...
I'm so sorry Kay! Hang in there my friend!

at 6:43 PM
Heart of Rachel said...
My heart goes out for you Kay. I hope that God will help you make the right decision.
at 9:16 PM

Biker Betty said...
{{{hugs}}} to you Kay. I've been away from the blogosphere for a while and sorry to read about your troubles. What he did is very hurtful and sometimes these things only happen once and never again. Listen to your instincts. If you get a rash thought, wait a day to make sure. I'll be praying for you.
at 2:44 PM

Judy Thomas said...
I'm just checking in to see how you are doing. Email me if you want: maracujabr at hotmail dot com
at 11:41 AM

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