I just saw an Oprah Primetime episode discussing a short film called Room 10. In the show, they showed a clip where an old man was speaking to a nurse. He was holding his wife's hand who was in a coma and he said to the nurse that he was happy that he was the one holding her hand after all these years.
The nurse then replies, you were lucky. He answers "Luck is the excuse of a lazy man who doesn't want to work. Luck has nothing to do with it. It's hard work. You get tired. tired of seeing the same person cross the room, tired of the same old stories, tired of the same fights." And she replies, "so there really is no secret?" He answers, "Yes there is. Stay in the room."
It seems so simple right? Stay in the room, don't leave, hold on, stay strong. Why is it then the hardest thing to do? Why do we immeidately head for the door when the going gets tough? Why do we hurt the one person we need to love the most? Why is it so hard to stay in the room?