today would have been our 4th

Today would have been our 4th. It's funny how there is still a slight tinge of pain and sadness but thankfully, it is but a tinge. We both have moved on, you first and because I finally realized that there was nothing left, I did too. I found myself taking a peek at your profile the other week and I saw that you seemed happy with her now, finally.

I have been on my own for quite some time now. I have focused all my energies on my business and work. It's been therapeutic and if I'm gonna be honest, it wasn't even intentional. Blessings started pouring in and soon I found myself immersed in my work that I just have no time for anything else. People have been telling me to go out and date or meet guys but there's just no one. I haven't met anyone who would exert effort and at this state, I am no longer willing to be the one to make an effort to go out and meet someone.

It's exhausting.

Now, if I will get into something new, the guy has to show me he wants me in his life. I deserved to be wooed and courted. If he doesn't agree, it's not my problem anymore. Today would have been our 4th but instead, today, I realized that today, you and I would have been just another mistake.

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25 comments:

  1. I am sure that's not easy to deal with, but it sounds like you are moving on, which is good.

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  2. Awe, this is such a tough thing to deal with. Healing will come <3

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  3. It is hard to get over someone. So sorry that this happened to you.

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  4. I'm sorry!!! Hoping you enjoy your day and find just the one that is there for you!

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  5. Time is a great healer and provides deeper perspective. All the best to you as you date.
    Carol Cassara
    www.carolcassara.com

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  6. It is difficult when things are not meant to be, but on the bright side it is good that you found out semi-early on instead of 20 years down the line.

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  7. Reading this made me so sad! I hope that you find peace soon. However, it's a blessing that you've gotten a lot of new opportunities with work. Sometimes hardships are blessings in disguise. Take it one day at a time, you'll get through this!

    Jasmine / www.jasminekeclipse.com

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  8. Good for you!! I read the growth and I'm very proud of you. For me, it's about 35, and all but 12 have been on my own. I grow every day, and you are, too. Keep up the good work!!

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  9. A lost relationship is always painful, but they are usually lost for good reason. It's good that you are able to look back and know that the loss was for the better.

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  10. That's powerful. I was with someone for 8 years before he left to be with another woman. At first it was extremely painful and then a lot of good things started to happen in my life. I would say I am at my happiest now. It's true that you don't need a man in your life to be happy. It's also true that you deserve to be wooed and courted, who knows, maybe the man for you is just waiting for the right time to win you over.

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  11. Very inspiring. Even I feel work and business can help you move on. Have a great future ahead.

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  12. Heart Aches & Break-Ups. They're always tough. It makes me sad to read / learn about relationships coming to an end ( mine included ). One thing I've learned about these things is that we probably won't forget, but we all heal til such time comes that you'd no longer feel anything. It's kind of weird especially if you've spent years together but there definitely is a reason why things didn't work out. Enjoy all the me time that you have right now. The ONE will find you, in God's perfect time.

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  13. Wow, thank you for sharing your feelings. I agree that if there is another man, you need to make sure he's the one...and that he treats you wonderfully

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  14. Sigh...unfortunately heartaches are something all of us will face at some point. Knowing how to move on gracefully is the key

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  15. Very well said. If someone doesn't appreciate you then they're not worth the time.

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  16. Wow, this is definitely tough. Stay strong, friend! This is inspiring.

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  17. I think of my marriage this way often but like you I know it would have been a mistake if we were still together. Sometimes it's best for us just to move on.

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  18. You definitely deserve someone who loves you perfectly. I'm glad you're settling for nothing less.

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  19. Thanks so much for sharing this!

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  20. Oh =) keep it up love, time heals everything, your special one will get to you eventually!

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  21. Give your self time, thanks for sharing how you feel.

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  22. I'm sorry to hear that you're still feeling a little pain. You do deserve someone who will love and cherish you.

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  23. Very inspirational sometimes reality can be difficult

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  24. Thank you for sharing such a personal post. I am sure you are helping someone else in the same situation.

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  25. All is well. God has already given us the love story that we always need and wanted. It has been given already, we'll just have to take it and let "faith" do it's work Nickie C. -27-

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