The older men who were around started shaking their heads in pity for the poor boy who did not know better. The female population of course went ballistic and started sprouting out all the words in machine gun format. The poor boy didn't understand what was happening.
After, we tried explaining to him but I think the shock of being asked this question kind of put me on firing mode and he didn't really get the answer he need. So, here I am, at 1am on a Monday writing about why girls just become a better and hotter version of themselves after getting dumped.
So Glenn, I hope this sheds light for you.
Girls don't immediately get better after getting dumped. We fell in love and when the person we love leaves, we don't just transform into an upgraded version of us.
We fall apart. Yes, we fall apart. We're human. We're girls. We're emotional and the guy that we thought would never leave us, the guy who PROMISED that they would never leave, LEFT. So yes, we fall apart.
We cry our hearts out, we sob ourselves to sleep, we weep at random moments. We become so ugly and so broken that we don't even recognize ourselves in the mirror. We question our self worth, our face, our body, every conversation, every move, every scene that transpired between you and me. We examine everything and try to find out where we went wrong.
Einstein would be proud of how thorough we are in our analysis. Unfortunately, we are never thorough enough and there really is no way that we can pinpoint and say, "this is where things went wrong."
Now, you'd probably say "how come we never see that phase?" Of course you wouldn't. You left remember? You left us. You bailed out and gave up just like that.
After breaking down and becoming this pathetic heap lying on the floor, our friends or family would eventually find us. They'd try to help and listen, be there for us, and console us but sooner or later, they'd kick us out of the rut you pushed us into and make us realize that we need to help ourselves.
Now, since you're no longer there, we find ourselves with a lot of free time and nothing to do. Now, what does a girl who have free time on her hands do? I think you know.
We keep ourselves busy. We clean the house, we fix things, we fix ourselves, we work out, we do this and we do that. We will do almost anything just to keep ourselves busy because to have free time would mean endless amount of thinking of the ex and that, that is just not acceptable.
When we have free time, we think and girls are very famous for over thinking. To avoid that, we do things that we weren't able to because we were either busy taking care of you or just being with you. Now we can do things we want to which made you go "ewww" or "oh really? We gotta do that?"
Working out is also one of the best ways to keep yourself not thinking and so, when women discover this, they resort to working out which leads to becoming hotter after a break up. Also, when we realize that we are actually losing weight and looking better, why would we stop?
So there ... that's the mystery of why girls become better and hotter after being dumped. It's not a "plan" that we devise. It's just how girls cope. It' just because we need to keep busy because if we don't ... we will go crazy because we are hurting so much from being left alone by the one person we believed would never leave us.
Maybe, if you had stuck around when I was at my worst, you''d get to have me when I'm finally at my best. You see, no one is perfect. Fairy tales aren't true. Relationships go through hell, but they also go to heaven. It's why it is a commitment. You commit to it, through heaven and hell. Serendipity may help but all it can do is to give you signs. It's still your actions that will determine who gets in your life and who leaves.
The fruit isn't just gonna fall into your mouth. You gotta stand, walk up to it, and pluck it from the tree before it goes to waste or someone else gets to it.
A 24 year old guy asked a question during lunch break yesterday at work. I say the words "lunch break" loosely because this was at...
When we met up last Monday, he mentioned eating at BullChef. Unfortunately, it was raining hard and parking was a stuggle. We almost did not eat at BullChef but luckily, I was bullheaded enough (you see the play of words there right? Right???) so we finally made our way to this almost literal hole in the wall and gave their famous bulalo a try.
BullChef is located across Milky&Sunny, just a few doors away from Three Sisters. The place is quite small so you really need to be on the lookout for it. However, the warmth inside did make up for the lack of space.
As you can see, the place is not that big and the materials or furniture are very simple.
However, the food more than made up for it. I had one of the tastiest and softest bulalo in my entire life and even their sizzling bulalo was really delicious. Sadly, FM burned his tongue out of excitement to try the food that he forgot he had the sizzling meat and immediately took a bite. Ouchie!
Thankfully, he still managed to enjoy the food and I even let him have some of my bulalo. I'm not really a bulalo fan but this one was simply good. It was tasty, the veggies were not overcooked, and the meat was very tender. The soup was just so yummy I actually finished everything.
It may have been a hole in the wall but I'm glad we ventured and gave it a try. FM and I may just be friends now but I'm grateful that we are still able to try out new places together. BullChef was definitely worth the trip.
It was a random conversation that FM and I had when I mentioned BullChef. It stood out for both of us because we have eaten at almost every ...
Let me pick up the pieces
Two by two
Let me build a new me.
Three by three
Number of steps I'm takin'
Four by four
Strength of walls I'm buildin'
Five by five
Tears keep on fallin'
Six by six
In time there will be healin'
Seven and eight
Slowly dawn is breakin'
Nine and ten
It's a brand new mornin'
One by one Let me pick up the pieces Two by two Let me build a new me. Three by three Number of steps I'm takin' Four by four...
I feel it
in the way you look at me
in the way you say my name
in the way you hold me.
You love me
I see it
by the fact you're still here
by the fact you come calling
by the fact you still care.
You love me
This is a given
people around us see it
people around us feel it
people around us believe it
You love me
However, it is not enough
to want to fight for us
to want to give us a chance
to want to be with me again.
You love me
but you no longer
love me enough ...
you just love me ...
and it is not enough.
You love me I feel it in the way you look at me in the way you say my name in the way you hold me. You love me I see it by the fact ...
a party with no festivities
a cafe with no coffee
a library with no books
a wallet with no money
a house with no family
a night sky with no stars
a world with no sun
This is you without me
This is me without you.
a park with no trees a party with no festivities a cafe with no coffee a library with no books a wallet with no money a house with no ...
I can't believe we're over
The love we had is over.
I wanted you to stay
The love we had should stay.
I meant to tell you sorry
The love we had deserves a sorry.
I wish you'd fight for us
The love we had needs to be fought for.
You're not supposed to feel it
The love we feel shouldn't be feared.
We deserve another chance
The love we have should get another chance.
It's just thoughts now
This and that, here and there
Up and down, right and about.
I can't believe we're over
The love we had is over.
Over I can't believe we're over The love we had is over. Stay I wanted you to stay The love we had should stay. Sorry I mea...
I honestly thought it would. Due to this, it really, truly, sincerely hurt when it ended. You see, I really believed him when he said that as long as I don't hurt his kids and I don't cheat on him, he would never leave me. I really believed him when he said that we would sort out whatever comes our way TOGETHER. He would never leave me.
This is what he promised. This is what I believed.
Then, he left.
He left heart. Stop fooling yourself that he's still there. He's not. The funny man you fell in love with is no longer there. He doesn't exist anymore. He's gone. He's hiding somewhere, licking his wounds.
The man you see right now is not the same. The funny man would never hurt you the way this one does. The funny man would never put you through so much pain. Remember, all he wanted was to make you smile and laugh.
The funny man forgives and loves you. He accepts you for what you are, flaws and all. This one right now, he thinks of himself. He doesn't care about your feelings. Sure, he helps you but till a certain extent only. Sure, he feels guilty but he continues to do what he wants. He loves you yes but he doesn't love you enough.
He can't love you anymore. He's too scared to love you. He's too scared to fight for his own happiness, much less your happiness heart. He's scared. He's a scared little boy and right now, he isn't man enough to be with you.
You need to accept that heart. I know you love him. I know you do. He doesn't love you though. He no longer does. He can't love you coz in his heart, there is only fear.
Accept it and move forward heart. The man you love with all your heart and life is no longer there. Accept it. Stop this pain we're feeling.
Please. Stop it. It hurts too much. It's consuming me and I cannot be consumed with this kind of pain. I still have B. I have a Mom who hurts for me and a sister forced to mature to be there for me. I have friends who hurt because I'm hurting. I cannot continue hurting for a guy who can't care that he hurts me because he's consumed with his own pain. We need to stop heart.
We really need to.
If he ever gets the courage to love you again, we wouldn't know. Until that happens though, please, love me first. Love us. You can still love him, but keep it to yourself. He doesn't need to know about that anymore. He doesn't care anyway.
So please stop heart? Please? For both our sanity's sake. Let him go for real ... if he finds his way back to us, then you know he really loves you and if he remains in hiding, then we both know that the love he had for us wasn't strong enough.
Let go. We both need to. He needs this and I need this. Let go. He's already left anyway.
It's been over a year. 2012 was a pretty good year for us wasn't it? Unfortunately, as they said, some good things never last. This ...
I decided to blog about this to help other solo parents know more about what they should get. Here are some key notes that I believe you should know.
I was talking to FM earlier today about the benefits I can get about the solo parent ID and it seemed that he wasn't fully aware of what...
But you really don't.
To you, I'm just another pretty face
To discard once done.
You see me
But you really don't.
To you, I'm just a conquest
Never to be kept
Never to be held
Never to be fought for
Never to be yours.
You see me
But you really don't.
All you see is just a pretty face
An empty shell
A heart with no soul.
You see me
But you really don't.
You see me But you really don't. To you, I'm just another pretty face To acquire To conquer To have To discard once done. Y...
This is how I make you feel.
This is how you make me feel
You yearn for my love
Yet loathe my presence
You want me
But not to be with me.
You lay in bed sound asleep
I sit by the window tears rolling
You sleep with a smile on your face
I lay awake my heart slowly breaking
You have me
Your dear security blanket
I have nothing
Just a cold, empty bed.
Warm Comfortable Secure This is how I make you feel. Cold. Rejected Unwanted This is how you make me feel You yearn for my love Y...
I spoke to someone who wouldn't be with the one they love because they were scared. He was scared. He loved her and they both knew that they loved each other, very much if I may say so. However, he was scared.
He was scared of her.
You see, she hurt him and he got to the point that he wasn't sure if it was something that would continue forever. Her mistake was hurting him. His mistake, was not giving her another chance ... his mistake was not giving them another chance ... his mistake was not giving himself the chance to be happy again. Deep inside, he knows that she is the one who can make him happy. Deep inside, he knows that she is the one who can complete him. She is his happiness.
I wanted to tell him, in life, everyone you love, they will hurt you. They will break you at one point especially if you really love them for to love someone is to give them the power to hurt you, to break you. I wanted to tell him, she's hurting too you know. She's hurting a lot. She's hurting more than you know. She lets you know a few of the hurt but not everything because she doesn't want to hurt you more than she has and she knows that if you knew how hurt she really is, you would hurt more.
I wanted to tell him, in life, everyone will hurt us. We just need to find out who is worth all the pain and who isn't. We just need to find out who amongst those who have hurt us is willing to heal that hurt, who is willing to pick up the broken pieces with us. You see, no one is perfect. Sometimes, those who hurt us most are the ones who love us most as well.
They make mistakes. They are human.
We makes mistakes. We are human.
If you can't stay away from that person after all the pain she has inflicted on you, if you still think of her, if you still look for her, if you still miss her, if you still care about her, if you still don't want tears falling down her face, if you don't want her to hurt more than she already has, if you still love being the reason for her smile ...
even when she has hurt you so much that you actually gave up and left her ...
then perhaps ... it is worth another try. Think about it.
I spoke to someone who wouldn't be with the one they love because they were scared. He was scared. He loved her and they both knew th...
Make it a point to always say the things in the left box and not the ones on the right. I know we all have moments of doubt but we always need to maintain positivity even if the positive aspect is as big as a coin only. It's still something.
Never lose hope. Never give up.
Make it a point to always say the things in the left box and not the ones on the right. I know we all have moments of doubt but we always...
Tomorrow, I am going to start work in what seems to be a great company. I've heard really good stuff about them and the account that I would be in so I'm pretty stoked. I hope that everything I've heard is true.
I'm nervous. I'm really nervous. I feel like I'm starting all over again. I feel like I'm this new graduate that just entered into the corporate world. I'm nervous about the new place, new environment, new culture, and new people. It's scary. I feel like I'm also going to university for the first time.
Its scary because people judge you upon sight. Its scary because people, especially women in general, simply hate me upon sight. I've always struggled between being aloof to appear like I don't care even when I really do and being friendly to try and fit in but most likely failing to do so.
Some people think that a pretty face is a blessing. Sometimes I think its a curse cause some people hate me for it and most guys just wanna do not so nice stuff with me because of it. Sometimes, I wish that people wouldn't notice me so much when I walk into a room or enter a new company. Unfortunately, it rarely happens that way.
So hopefully, tomorrow, I get to start over and I make friends. I'm not aiming for Miss Friendship but I am hoping that I wouldn't make so many enemies. I just want a quiet life.
No new updates on FM save for he asked me to see me last week and I think its partially because he misses me. I think. Well, I hope.
B's gonna be in 2nd grade and he is growing up so fast. My little boy isn't so little anymore but I have to accept that. I just wish I could shield him from all the pain he will encounter but I know I can't. I just have to be there for him.
Wish me luck for the coming few days of my life ... or weeks ... or months ... or years.
Tomorrow, I am going to start work in what seems to be a great company. I've heard really good stuff about them and the account that ...
Everyday, we track B's progress. If he was overall good for the day, he gets a smile. If he did something that was really bad, he gets a sad face. At the end of the month, if there are more smiles than frowns, he gets a big treat such as 5 books or swimming at Ace Water Spa. It could also be 3 hours at Tom's World or a movie date with dinner. =)
If he gets more frowns, then I take away some privileges for the first week of the next month. He has agreed to this and so far, we've had 2 bad days. Today, he was really excited to get that smile. I loved that he was very excited to get that smile and I look forward to seeing more smiles.
I did tell him that regardless of how many frowns he gets, I'd still love him. Also, he made this today. I'm so happy. Taking away the laptop for 2 days straight made him more creative.
B has been acting up a wee bit lately and so I had to come up with a new strategy to get him to behave. You see, I used to spank him then I ...
The one in white was taken April 28 and the one in green was taken today.
Is there an improvement? My clothes seem to think so. I definitely lost some fat in the tummy area. So, what do you guys think? I feel a bit lighter. Or maybe that's just air that went out of my head? Haha.
I have learned to love hot tea and so I've been drinking a lot of it now. I am no longer starving myself but I have limited on stuff that I shouldn't be eating.
I hope to post another update in 1.5 months again and I hope that I'd have shed more pounds and not gained anything since I will be working starting Monday and it will be on a graveyard shift.
So there, that's my update on my quest to losing weight.
1.5 months ago I posted a photo of myself because I went on a quest to losing weight which is one of the steps I am taking to a better me. ...
Since I'm a cat lover, here's the first of the Friday Madness dedicated to cat lovers like me. Dog lovers, don't bark just yet. Next week, it might be your turn.Or lizards. Blech.
Are they not adorable? I love cats and hope to have at least 4 one day that are just as adorable as the ones here.
Since its Friday and most people just wanna feel good on a Friday ... I'm gonna start with Friday Madness which will be posts to simply ...
I let him do it on his own and simply encouraged him when he became frustrated coz his first attempt wasn't successful. Sometimes, I feel that I may have turned him into a book nerd too much and that his creativity could have been hampered coz he feels that everything needs to be perfect or fit into a pattern. I'm glad that lately, and with his, he's learning to just let go and let his inner artist do the work.
Loved how we spent this morning together. B with his finger painting while I look on the sideline and took photos. :)
I recently bought a set of finger painting material with stamps at National Book Store. You see, B wanted to learn how to do finger painting...
Thankfully, he was indeed present and he was so accommodating that I felt that my trip to Megamall was all worth it. We even had a short discussion about nude photos and how the people here react to it. It was just so surreal to have a person I have admired for a long time be talking to me like we were on the same level. Eeekkk.
Of course, there were other artists and paintings being shown. These are some that really caught my eye.
Some of the photos were not put on display which made me sad because there were really great ones that were just at the back door and some not so great ones on display in my opinion. Then again, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
It was a first for me to attend such a gathering and I'm glad that I made it. It was definitely something new and something worth experiencing. Do visit them at the 4th Floor Building A SM Megamall. They will be there until June 29, 2013.
I was invited to the opening of A Decade of Renaissance Art Gallery earlier this evening at Megamall Art Center Building A, 4th Floor. This ...
Upon getting home, I rested a bit then prepared my bath. I was stoked coz I was going to try the Asian Secrets Lulur Indonesian Whitening Body Scrub from Unilab and by the smell of the seaweed version, it was something that I knew I'll enjoy.
You see, the smell was just barely there. It hinted at the seaweed ingredient but it wasn't overpowering that it would leave me thinking I was a mermaid surrounded by floating seaweeds in the salty waters of the ocean. It was more of a hint of the breeze of the ocean and it was relaxing.
Now I really liked the texture of Asian Secrets Lulur Indonesian Whitening Body Scrub Though it had grains in it, it was fine enough that when you rub it on your skin, it won't leave your skin scratched or worse, bleeding. It had a grainy but fine texture which I really really loved.
See how its grainy but still smooth that it won't damage your skin should you be too eager in rubbing it all over? This is a big plus for me.
It's been over 3 hours since I took a bath and used the Asian Secrets Lulur Indonesian Whitening Body Scrub all over my body and I still can't stop touching my skin because it just feels smoother all over. I could literally feel the dead skin cells peeling away while I was scrubbing. I felt so much cleaner, smoother, and a tad bit whiter coz of all the dead skin cells that were taken off.
Best part was that when I rinsed, it just went away without leaving any irritating residue. There was none of the sticky feeling that you sometimes get when you use a body scrub. I'm glad that Asian Secrets Lulur Indonesian Whitening Body Scrub with Seaweed Extracts wasn't like that.
That's me right after my bath and I am just so happy with Asian Secrets Lulur Indonesian Whitening Body Scrub. Below are the two variants of Asian Secrets Lulur Indonesian Whitening Body Scrub. One comes with Licorice and Mulberry Extract and the other has Seaweed Extract and Vitamin E.
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Available in Department Stores and Watsons
It is also best applied on dry skin. I, however, prefer it with a wet skin. =)
- Lulur beads gently exfoliate and remove dead skin cells to smoothen and give it a radiant glow.
- Frequent usage reduces skin pigmentation and evens out skin tone by getting rid of dark patches, especially in areas prone to darkening like elbows, knees, armpits and the area between the thighs.
- It also moisturizes and leaves skin with a light fragrant scent."
Effectiveness - 4/5
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For now, I will focus on loving me and making me a better person so that when you are ready, you will come back to a person who is a much better version of me and someone who is ready to be loved because I have learned to love myself again. This will be my mantra now.
Till fate leads us back to each other ....
2 weeks ago, I met Nature. She was my partner in the Life Design Workshop that I attended and when we had a coaching session, she told me, &...