holding on or letting go


A quote I love from Bob Ong (a Filipino author) is this: "Pakawalan mo ung mga bagay na nakakasakit sayo kahit na pinasasaya ka nito. Wag mong hintayin ang araw na sakit na lang ang nararamdaman mo at iniwan ka na ng kasiyahan mo."

In English: "Let go of the things that causes you pain even if it also brings you happiness. Do not wait for the time when it will just bring you pain because your happiness has left."

I am a firm follower of holding on until there is nothing left to hold on to anymore. This is what I normally do and have always done whenever I am in any relationship, be it love or friendship. It is just not in me to let go when there is still something.

However, if you and the other person are not on the same page of the things you want to happen, or how you want things to be, what do you do about it? What if the other person is willing to compromise everything on his side and do what you want him to do but you know that it doesn't make him happy? What if your demands are not over the line but simply something that can be easily met and very reasonable? Do you give way and just keep all the bad feelings inside or do you let the other person adjust but at the same time risk losing everything? Either way, it seems that the end will be the same.

What do you do? Do you pray that things work out or do you compromise and sacrifice to maintain things? Do you hold on or do you let go?

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